Yeah, finding that place that reflects openness to interest and possibilities without conveying that off-putting desperation vibe can be a challenge. Overall, not looking is one of the proven strategies for finding some things, including love and job opportunities.

If I'd been among the observers at the Big Time and the Elysian, without knowing anything more, I probably would have thought you were bisexual.

I do believe you're hard-wired monogamous, though, and that wouldn't have fit any of the scenarios the folks watching you were coming up with.