One thing I don't understand in the trope of The Long Lost Child (or, Long Lost Father) is how there's an INSTANT BOND between inseminator and spawn.
That's the way it is in movies and books. The LLC seeks out the LLF, they meet up, INSTANT BOND. Whereas our probably-mutual adopted friend sought out his birth family, and in all cases it was a painful experience, filled with pretty bitter rejection and negation. And according to him, that was the experience of just about everyone who sought out their birth parents in spite of closed record adoptions.
Having said all that! I think records should be open, and adoptions should be open, not just because of the congenital illness, but because it makes a stronger family bond all around.
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Date: 2010-08-09 06:17 pm (UTC)That's the way it is in movies and books. The LLC seeks out the LLF, they meet up, INSTANT BOND. Whereas our probably-mutual adopted friend sought out his birth family, and in all cases it was a painful experience, filled with pretty bitter rejection and negation. And according to him, that was the experience of just about everyone who sought out their birth parents in spite of closed record adoptions.
Having said all that! I think records should be open, and adoptions should be open, not just because of the congenital illness, but because it makes a stronger family bond all around.